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How to Identify When You're Being Manipulated with RYAN BREIVIK

September 28, 2020 • RYAN BREIVIK • Season 2 • Episode 21

Manipulation assumes no gender… and neither does vulnerability. Here to talk about the power of standing up for yourself and stepping away from the victim mentality is Ryan Breivik. Ryan is the mastermind behind The Scarlet Letter D, a book about bouncing back and redefining yourself after divorce, which he created because he would have loved to have that knowledge back when he was going through his divorce.

Ryan was married to a "narcopath", which is a combination of a narcissist and a sociopath, and has been divorced for 9 years. Ryan’s mother was highly emotional and his father didn’t often think things through, so that was the norm that he grew up with. He didn’t know he was being abused by his wife, but around the fourth year of marriage, she admitted that she had been with other men before being with him. This wasn’t the way their culture worked. Normally, physical intimacy is saved for after marriage. Ryan began to think of what else she hasn’t told him and that it was the beginning of the end. His competitiveness led him to hold on to the relationship and keep fighting for it, but as she began pulling away from their religion, he could see the relationship falling apart.

“When you love someone, the love that you share can either warn you or it can encourage you.”

They were married for over 5 years and when it ended, Ryan went to counseling and began to build his emotions and psyche around healthy relationship principals. He exercises a lot, which also acts as a form of therapy for him. Hydration, preparation, and taking advice from people who have been in his shoes helps him on his journey. The reasons why he feels like his healing has advanced so much are that he can realize when he’s being triggered and that he works on getting over the victimization. He’s stopping the cycle of abuse by helping his daughters identify when their mother has way too much control over their lives. When they stay with him every so often, he gives them healthy structure but also encourages having lots of fun and playing.

“We don’t have to be victims. We don’t have to stay that way. It’s okay to lick your wounds, that’s healthy, but it’s not the endgame, it’s not where you want to finish.”

Ryan explains how he recognized when he was being manipulated by his wife, giving examples of the emotional manipulation. He speaks on how to counter manipulation and stand up for yourself and shares his candid thoughts on cancel culture. He shares his “why” in life and gives advice to other men and dads who have been abused, including the importance of continuously building confidence. Ryan speaks on the untapped potential we all have, why men struggle with vulnerability, and the importance of men being in touch with their emotions.

“My rights don’t stop at your feelings.”

Connect with Ryan Breivik:

Find him on Facebook: www.facebook.com/He.who.grills

Follow him on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ryanbreivik

Follow him on Twitter: www.twitter.com/ryan_breivik21

Buy his book: www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-scarlet-letter-d-j-rgen-rune/1129094618

Connect with the host, Tiffany Barnes:

Listen to more episodes of Speak LOUD: www.speakloudpodcast.com

Visit my non-profit’s website: www.sharethemovement.org

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/speakloudpodcast